I’m glad that you are feeling much better and that your magical flu medication kicked in! Your blogs are great and I am enjoying your thoughts.

In response to your ideas and information on perfectionism, I come across many ‘perfectionistic’ children in my elementary classroom.I’d like to share my thoughts and would love to hear what you think! Do you think perfectionism starts in youth? I believe that it somehow starts as a child, maybe even infant? My teacher friends and I always sit around discussing this huge trend in our classrooms (over doughuts, or course!). How did this trait come about? And is it genetic? Or is it the sucky snacks that parents send with their children from Trader Joe’s…just kidding.

Personally, I feel that it could be a combination of two factors. First, parents in this day in age are called the “hoovering generation”- meaning they are exposed to too much mass media (aka. Dr. Phil) and essentially freak out about what their child eats, their social circle, and what their reading level they are reading in school…causing anxieity and stress on the individual child. Basically, this is not letting their developmental appropriate stages to develop naturally in a low-stress way. As a result, we as teachers see children unable to brainstorm thoughts, take a risk in drawing a picture on their own, or even play with a new friend outside. Children with perfectionistic qualities often times will begin a writing page and will become too stressed in writing their name perfectly,that they are unable to finish their classwork. Often times, I see perfectionistic students obsessively cracking their knuckles, pulling at their eyebrows, or hiding their work from their parents afraid of what their family considers ‘failure’.

Second, I feel a strong pull to say that perfectionism is just simply in our wiring. Is it genetic? If you notice, most people with perfectionistic qualities are somehow children of other perfectionistic parents or parent. A trait that is wired into an infant at birth, may be totally reinforced into a child later in life by their environment. Again, I see this with the child who is unable to draw a picture of a dinosaur at school, but goes home and is pushed to read a 2nd grade level reading book. Talk about anxiety! Parents are worried, and so now their children worry as well.

I guess I feel stronlgy that perfectionism struggles begin in our younger years.
We are exposed or engrained at an early age, and then it is only life situations that feed the fire. A little PlayStation 2, a flunked test or two, and a huge cherry Slurpee from Seven-Eleven couldn’t do that much harm, right?